This warm and witty book about how siblings can deal with each other in the best possible ways is a real winner. Having had one sibling myself, a younger brother, I can see how the suggestions in this book could work, given the desire of the participants to make changes in themselves. There are a few pages at the beginning explaining to parents just what their kids are on about when the problems arise, and then we proceed to the material for children themselves. Curiously, but effectively, we get comparisons with dogs! We learn that dogs respond to smiles and helpful words, not shouts and unkindness, and the same is true of our family members. When we wear pretend spectacles labelled 'siblings stink' or 'go away', we are approaching our brothers and sisters with our own pre-determined ways of looking at them. On the other hand when we are looking through our best glasses that say, 'No-Big-Deal' we can see that most behaviour of others is just that. When we are playing with friends, we use those glasses all the time, but the difference comes when we are with family. The story goes on to explain about 'rewards' and 'ignoring' the bad actions that upset us so much and gives lots of good hints about how to reward or ignore our siblings in order to bring about the desired results. There is a good chapter on how to deal with feelings that can get us into trouble, and another on making compromises and contracts and the differences between the two. Towards the end, we learn about being 'fair and/or equal' and must learn that it is impossible for parents to be equal in everything, but that doesn't mean that parents don't love each child the same amount: 'Reasonably fair is not the same as exactly equal.' Basically, it is between you and your siblings as to how you treat each other, and no one else can do the job for you, and, of course, there are always good things about brothers and sisters too. We must learn to emphasize the positives. Dogs figure heavily in this book, and there is good reason for that. It is easier for children to understand when animals are shown to be doing some of the same things people do. There are also lots of good, humorous line drawings of all the things being explained. This book is a practical and useful way of dealing with siblings in all their various life situations and a good way of solving the perennial problem of kids not getting on. Available from Amazon, from book shops and from the publisher: www.jkp.com.